The Right Way To Stay Motivated - Part One.
There’s this weird thing that’s happening right now in my coaching practice.
Almost every single one of my clients is having the exact same struggle at the exact same time.
Maybe it’s happening for you, too?
The issue is this: Motivation.
The things that used to work as motivation don’t seem to work anymore.
Or your motivation only lasts for 3 days.
You’ve lost your Motivation Mojo.
Can you relate?
This is the start of a 3-parter I’ve got coming your way over the next few weeks. I’m going to break down this whole concept of ‘motivation’, why it’s so elusive sometimes - and how you can recapture it and stay connected to it.
So let’s have a look.
There are three different ways that your motivation mojo can get sapped:
You confuse comfort with pride.
You keep forgetting why your goals are important.
You get bored.
I’ll be addressing each of these in detail over the next few weeks - complete with the mental shift you need to make in order to move forward.
First up - Comfort versus Pride.
Does this sound familiar?
“I feel fine about my body - until I see a picture of myself”.
This seems to be going around - much like the flu.
It’s a case of ‘conflicted motivation’.
The conflict is between wanting to remain comfortable - versus wanting to feel proud of some results.
It usually starts out like this:
“Sure - I could lose 10-15lbs pounds, if I really applied myself - but, for the most part, I feel fine.
It is what it is.
I’m confident in who I am, and there are more important things in life than skinny jeans - or how I look in a bathing suit.
I try to eat healthier and to exercise more.
I think it’s going well. I think I’m pretty motivated. I feel like I’m doing a lot.”
And then - like a pie to the face - someone shows you the pictures from the office Holiday party, or the field trip you chaperoned, or the marathon you ran.
“No - that can’t actually be my rear end. It’s just a bad angle”.
“Does my face really look that full?”
“Why didn’t anyone tell me that shirt makes my stomach look so big?”
You were feeling fine about your body - until you saw it from the ‘outside’.
This presents a conflict.
You don’t WANT to change your eating habits or exercise more - because you are comfortable with how you feel and what you’re doing.
You feel like you do a good enough job of eating right and moving your body.
But you can’t stand the pictures.
You don’t WANT to be so bothered by the appearance of your thighs or your upper arms…..but you are.
And you feel bad.
Not because you ARE bad - but because your outsides do not match your insides.
Pride versus Comfort - and how to know the difference.
I want to be very clear: It’s incredibly important that you like who you ARE, regardless of your external appearance.
It’s also important that you feel attuned to your body’s needs, strengths and capabilities.
Believe me - people go their whole lives without liking who they are, or feeling grateful to their bodies, so if you are starting from a place of love and gratitude - you’re ahead of the game!
This blog is not at ALL meant to imply that your body needs to look a certain way in order to be happy - ‘cos that’s a big pile of poop.
This is for those times when you know - deep down - that your body and your health could be dramatically improved….but you’re struggling to find a meaningful, lasting motivation.
With that said…..
Sometimes, we get comfortable with extra weight on our bodies, and it FEELS very much like ‘loving body acceptance’ when, in fact, it’s something else.
Comfort is not the same as pride.
Pride is not the same as health.
I am comfortable eating an entire bag of salt and vinegar potato chips. I am not proud of it.
I may be proud of who I am as a person, but it’s not healthy to be carrying over 20 extra pounds with high blood pressure and high cholesterol.
Sometimes we don’t realize how comfortable we’ve become, until we see it in a photograph, or in a store window reflection.
And - again - don’t get me wrong - because there is more to life than how you look in a photo - but, sometimes, that glimpse of ourselves on the Holiday card is enough to inspire a new personal standard.
Motivation Overhaul: Seek To Be Proud All Over.
You are, most likely, a fabulous person.
I say this because my clients are all FABULOUS people, as are the folks who chat with me on Facebook.
So, if you’re reading this far, you’re probably pretty fabulous, too.
You probably have great pride in your intellect, personality, and your accomplishments - and rightly so.
You have your act together.
You like who you are.
You’re good at your work and you are well-loved in your life.
But do you hate being in pictures?
Do you hide in the back?
Do you avoid mirrors as much as possible?
Do you hate dealing with clothes?
That’s not pride.
That’s not who you are meant to be.
See - I get it. The idea of losing weight to look ‘cute’ in a picture or to have a ‘bangin’ bikini body’ seems absurd and makes you want to take a nap. Am I right?
It’s not enough of a motivator, because it feels shallow and dippy - and that’s not WHO YOU ARE.
So what if you could be motivated by a sense of personal pride in the achievement of becoming fit and healthy?
Because competence, achievement, and accomplishment is just who you are and what you do.
You have the skills to succeed in all other areas of your life - so, too, do you have the skills to succeed in your health.
You deserve to come out of hiding.
You deserve to see ALL of yourself.
You’re too smart, funny, competent, loving, lovable - and fabulous - to be averting your eyes from your own reflection.
Especially when you already possess everything you need in order to make a change.
You can DO this.
What if you could seek to be fit, trim and healthy because that is your new standard for how you care for yourself - and you’re damn proud of it.
The wonderful, smart, funny, competent person you are deserves to live in a strong and healthy body. And YOU are the one to make that happen.
Next week, I’ll be talking about the second culprit that saps your motivation mojo - so be sure to stay tuned!