The Right Way To Stay Motivated: Part Two.
Last week I started this handy-dandy 3-part series about MOTIVATION, and how to reclaim your Motivation Mojo.
You have arrived here at Part Two - but, if you want to go back and read Part One (which you totally should….), you can find it a-right here: Read Part One.
Today I’m going to talk about the second culprit that can sap your motivation mojo - and that culprit is…..forgetfulness.
You forget about your goals, and why they are are important.
Does this sound familiar?
“I’m really, really motivated and I think I’m doing well - but then there’s a party at work, or someone offers me some cookies - and it’s like I completely FORGET that I was watching my weight and trying eat healthy.
I don’t remember until after I’ve eaten the cookies”.
So what we’re dealing with here is a case of ‘forgotten motivation’.
You know the expression, ‘Out of sight, out of mind’?
Well this is sort of like, ‘Out of MIND, out of mind’.
And it seems so silly, right? I mean, supposedly, you WANTED to be losing weight and eating healthier. You CHOSE to embark on this journey to a healthier body - and yet, how quickly it all flies out the window when someone shows up with cookies.
Why does this happen?
It happens because you have waaay more experience with eating the cookies than you have with NOT eating the cookies.
If you were an old pro at ‘not eating the cookies’ then, in all likelihood, you wouldn’t be here on my website (although I am so incredibly happy that you are!).
It has become your habit to behave a certain way around food.
Perhaps your habit is to accept food whenever it is offered. Maybe you always graze from the cookie platter in meetings - or maybe you always snack after dinner, even if you’re full.
It’s a habit. It’s a pattern of behavior that has become somewhat mindless.
And, as I always say (although I’m not the only one to say it), unhealthy habits are not BROKEN - they are REPLACED with healthier, more desirable habits.
In other words, you can’t just close your eyes, grit your teeth, and hope that the impulse to behave differently will descend upon you when they’re passing around the fried shrimp appetizers, because, well, it ain’t gonna happen like that.
Instead, you must set yourself up - in a calm and lucid moment (so…not when there’s cake) - to have the best shot at making the choices you want to make, no matter WHAT kind of fancy treat is sitting in front of you.
Motivation Overhaul: Re-Train Your Brain.
They say that, “discipline is simply remembering what you want”.
You have to remember what it is that you’re going for.
What are your goals? Why do they matter? Why now?
Because, if you remember your goals - if they’re clear and specific and meaningful to you - it becomes infinitely easier to make the choices that will get you there.
Ahhhh, but how do you remember….when there’s pizza in the conference room?
Well, it starts BEFORE you even get to the conference room.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to program some reminders into your brain in every way possible.
- Change your computer passwords to an inspirational word or phrase (“Lose20lbs”,”size10pants”, “NoHeartDisease”, etc, etc, etc). Think of how many times a day you have to type in a password. What if each time you typed on the keyboard, you were having to also think about your goal?
- Vision boards work. Not by ‘magic’, but because each time you look at that collection of images or phrases, they root down a little deeper in your brain. It’s another opportunity to plant NEW seeds, that can turn into thoughts, which can turn into action. You don’t have to fill an entire wall in your home with magazine clippings, or keep a giant sheet of oaktag in your office - but just one meaningful phrase or image, placed where you can see it, can surprisingly do wonders.
- Join a group. Being a part of a community that shares your goals can be an ongoing source of inspiration. It’s an effortless way to to stay reminded of what you’re working towards - because, even if you forget, there will be someone around in the group who will remind you!
- Choose meaningful goals. This may seem obvious, but I often hear of people randomly selecting health and weight loss goals that aren’t really that important to them, deep down. Like, “I want to look good in a bathing suit”…..but they never go to the beach, so there is no real incentive there. Pick something that resonates in your toes. “I want to lose 12lbs and be in the best shape of my life on my next birthday”. You’ll have an easier time remembering…..
Next week, I’ll be wrapping things up with the final culprit that saps your motivation mojo. If you ever find yourself feeling bored or generally uninspired by your own progress, you’re going to want to catch this post! Until next time…