When You're Just Not Ready To Get Healthy.
People make changes when they’re ready - and usually not one second sooner.
Have you ever tried to convince someone else to quit smoking?
How’d that work out for ya?
My guess is…not so great.
It’s maddening, right? Because everybody knows how TERRIBLE and unhealthy it is to smoke.
“What’s wrong with you??!!” you want to scream at your smoker-friend.
“How can you continue to smoke??? You KNOW it’s bad for you, don’t you?? “.
Doesn’t make any sense, right?
Why doesn’t your friend quit smoking?
Because your friend isn’t ready.
Be assured, your friend does not want to die. Your friend does not want to get lung cancer - and your friend knows that smoking is a terrible, unhealthy, horrible habit with no redeeming health value.
But, in spite of all of this, your friend is not ready to quit smoking.
Because, if your friend quit smoking, your friend would have to learn new ways to cope with stress, anxiety, sadness, and fear. Your friend would have to find a new way to be social.
Your friend would have to change.
And change in the right-here-right-now feels more frightening and overwhelming than a possibly-maybe-far-away terrible death from cigarette smoking.
Now let’s talk about YOU.
Maybe you’ve been thinking about losing some weight.
Maybe your doctor has been nudging you to lower your blood pressure and cholesterol.
Maybe you would love to get back into your favorite jeans, or look better naked.
Maybe you know you could be eating better and exercising more.
These all sound like really great ideas, right?
So, are you ready to make it happen?
Are you ready to make it happen…..right NOW?
I mean RIGHT NOW - with your very next bite?
Depending on your readiness, that question either made you scream, “Hell, YEAH!” - or it made you want to take a nap.
But there’s no real in-between.
You’re either ready or you’re not.
Just like with your maddening, frustrating smoker-friend, no amount of pushing and prodding from anybody else will ever be enough to ‘persuade’ you to start changing your behavior - until YOU decide it’s finally time.
And, if it’s not time yet, then it’s just not time yet.
The truth is, you will be ready when you’re ready - and not one second sooner.
But - please, mark my words - when you ARE ready, you will be unstoppable. Because you will have decided that you want to CHANGE more than you want the comfort of staying the same.
You will have decided that you are excited to learn a new way of being - not overwhelmed and filled with dread.
You will have an open mind and a willing spirit - and an eagerness to finally break through your obstacles.
And it will all feel a lot easier than you ever imagined.
Because you will be ready for it.